
Daniel thought his relentless standards were the reason for his success. In therapy, he discovered they were also the source of much of his unhappiness. Daniel spent almost an hour rewriting an email. It wasn’t a particularly important email. Nobody’s job depended on it. No major decision would be made because of it. It was…

We tend to think of perfectionists as driven people with high standards. But psychologists have long argued that perfectionism is less about excellence and more about avoiding criticism, rejection and the fear of not being good enough. There was a time when describing yourself as a perfectionist sounded almost like a humblebrag. During job interviews,…

There is a phrase that keeps resurfacing with increasing certainty: “everyone has ADHD these days.” It tends to appear in casual conversation, often with mild irritation and a sense that something has gone wrong. The implication is that a once-specific clinical diagnosis has somehow leaked into everyday life, becoming a catch-all explanation for distraction, procrastination…

Most people only notice dissociation when it looks dramatic: missing chunks of time, blank spells, or describing the world as unreal. But that’s just the far end. In reality, dissociation runs through ordinary life in much smaller doses, usually unnoticed. It is less a rare condition and more a sliding scale of how much a…

Trauma-Informed Care: A Journey to Healing with Zain As a therapist, I’ve been fortunate to witness many remarkable stories of healing and resilience. One story that stands out is Zain’s, a man in his mid-thirties of Asian descent, who courageously allowed me to share his journey with the understanding that his real name is not…