Author: Ania Dimond-Koroza
-
Multiple Personalities: Hollywood Fantasy or Real Mental Health Condition?
Cinema loves extremes: one body, ten identities, dramatic switches, scary music. Hollywood has long been fascinated by “split personalities.” The result is entertaining, but also misleading. Let’s clear this up: do people really have multiple personalities, or is it mostly movie nonsense? Short answer: the condition is real, while the movie version is mostly nonsense.…
-
Ghosting and Attachment Styles: Why Some People Disappear Instead of Communicating
Ghosting has become a common experience in modern relationships. One day there is regular contact, emotional connection, and plans for the future. The next, there is silence. No explanation, no goodbye, no closure. Although ghosting is often framed as a problem of dating apps or social media culture, it is usually rooted in something more…
-
Procrastination Is About Avoiding Unpleasant Emotions, Not Laziness
If procrastination were laziness, it would feel comfortable. It doesn’t. It feels tense, irritating, and quietly stressful. You delay the task, but your mind keeps circling it. That alone tells us something important. Procrastination is not rest. It is avoidance. Psychological research over the last decade has become increasingly clear on this point. Procrastination is…
-
The Quiet Abuse That Slowly Breaks You
Anna (a client of mine, not her real name) did not come to therapy saying she had been abused. She came saying she felt confused, exhausted, and strangely smaller than she used to be. She was articulate, thoughtful, and deeply self-critical. She believed the problem was her. Anna has given me permission to share parts…
-
Why January Feels Like a Black Hole (And How to Escape It)
You wake up in early January and immediately notice it: the decorations are gone, and the buzz of holiday excitement has faded into silence, making even coffee feel pointless. Work feels heavier, energy is missing, and motivation? Nonexistent. That first week of high hopes—that maybe this year everything will change—collides with reality, when you realise…
-
Change Happens When You Let Go of Changing Others and Focus on Changing Yourself. The quiet paradox of acceptance in relationships
Most relationship problems don’t start with a lack of love. They start with tension between who someone is and who we wish they were. Not in a dramatic way. More like a low-level irritation that hums in the background. You love them. You chose them. And still, something feels off. That tension can be about…
-
Are You a People Pleaser? Understanding the Difference Between Kindness and Overgiving
When Being Kind Crosses a Line We all like to be helpful. Holding the door, offering advice, checking in on a friend—these are signs of a kind person. But sometimes, helping stops being about kindness and starts being about keeping others happy at your own expense. That’s when people pleasing begins. People pleasing is when…
-
Not Compatible with Your Partner? What Really Makes a Relationship Work
I see more and more couples who complain, “Maybe we’re just not compatible.” Maybe your playlists don’t match, one of you loves early morning runs while the other savors lazy coffee-in-bed mornings, or you binge completely different shows. When stress hits, those little differences can feel like deal-breakers. But here’s the truth: they’re not. Science…
-
Why the Least Informed People Often Sound the Most Confident
Why the Least Informed People Often Sound the Most Confident You’ve probably met them—the person who knows almost nothing about a topic but talks like they wrote the book. Loud, decisive, and oddly convincing. Meanwhile, the person who actually understands the topic might sound hesitant, cautious, full of “well, maybe”s. Frustrating, confusing, and a little…